Gratitude and Patience
I was driving today and heard a powerful statement on MPR. I can’t find the quote or give
credit, but basically the guest said that to be truly happy, you need to be grateful in the good
times and be patient in the bad times.
This resonated with me so strongly personally, in coaching and in business. Here is why.
Personally, I have found that holding gratitude in the good times AND the bad has gotten me
through cancer, losing my sister and many friends to cancer, and other adversities. But what
was missing was the patience part.
I wanted to heal from my bi-lateral mastectomy in 2 weeks, I wanted the grief of my losses to go
away quickly. But wishing things and emotions away didn’t make them so. I am currently
recovering from a major concussion (thank you MN ice!). I am practicing being patient in my
healing, knowing that brain injuries take a long time to heal. It has helped me to laugh at the
times when I left the car running while I shopped at Costco! It has allowed me to be vulnerable,
explaining my situation to colleagues when I struggle with vocabulary recall. Patience is
something I found through my cancer and reminded of by today’s MPR show and I am forever
In adversity coaching, I often talk to my clients about the importance of holding grief and joy at
the same time. Now I am going to add patience to that equation. I have a client who has been
laid off and is panicked. They hated their job, but they want to apply for similar jobs and take the
first offer they get. This reaction is born out of fear and we talk about fear a lot. I can’t wait to
share this idea with them and talk more about patience. How can imagine applying this idea to
Finally, this idea also applies to my business. Deb Johnson, our president elect, has a great
analogy... so often we want to plant a seed and start harvesting right away. Patience is the
missing key for me. Patience does not mean being complacent or lazy, in fact it is the opposite.
Patience requires care and feeding after I have planted my idea or seed. Those business ideas
require nurturing before the results are enjoyed!
Gratitude and Patience are like bread and butter for me- I am so grateful for the reminder today!
I’d love to hear your thoughts on gratitude during good times and patience during bad times.
Feel free to send me an email, give me a call or talk to me at our ICF picnic on July 23 at the
Como Park Pavilion.
ICF Minnesota President
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Something New - Gaston Award Nomination Opportunity!
We are adding something new to make it easy for our members to nominate a fellow coach for the annual Gaston Award. Starting in February at every Speaker Series and Coaching Connection event we will have a special card that can be filled out with your nomination. The card will include the criteria. on the front and the nomination information on the back. There will be a special box for you to place your nomination card in. Our intention is to ensure that everyone has significant time and chance to nominate someone that exemplifies the true nature of the coaching profession. The following is the criteria used to select the Gaston Award winner:
Criteria for Gaston Award Recipient
1. Holds a coaching credential that meets one of the following:
• ICF-issued credential
• Certification from an ICF-accredited coaching school
• Certification from a professional coaching program within an ICF-accredited educational institution
2. Demonstrates clear and strong leadership for the advancement of the coaching profession.
3. Demonstrates integrity through professionalism and selfless service.
4. Has been an active member of ICF Minnesota for three or more years and continues to contribute uniquely to ICF Minnesota’s growth.
Need to Find a Good Coach? One criterion: Emotional Intelligence
By, Mary Kay Delvo, INspiring SIGHT
May 29, 2019
If you didn’t think emotional and social intelligence were important before, you would have had no doubt by the time you left ICF Minnesota’s professional development event on May 28th at the Metropolitan Ballroom. Over 70 professional coaches were inside on a beautiful spring evening eager to learn how to advance their coaching competencies and profession.
The topic—It’s One Thing to Have Emotional Intelligence but How Do You Coach With It. The presenters--two women with decades of experience coaching and developing leaders. Lisa Griebel, Crescendo, Inc. and Robin Stubblefield, Vitalize Consulting, LLC, demonstrated through case studies, scenarios, and problem solving that emotional intelligence is not an optional competency for great coaches.
The impact of emotional intelligence couldn’t have been better articulated than when attendees shared their own experiences of working with great coaches vs. working with not-so-great coaches.
When attendees were asked how they felt when working with a great coach, they said things like: Empowered, supported, seen, recognized, loved and safe.
Contrast that with how they felt when working with a not-so-great coach: Abandoned, emotionally deserted, stuck, left behind, demoralized, unseen and unheard.
Emotional and social intelligence is most easily understood as a person’s ability to be aware of their emotions, and what triggers those emotions so they can be managed. The EQi-2.0 assessment is not a personality typing tool but the first validated tool for understanding one’s emotional intelligence competencies in the following five areas: 1) Self-perception, 2) Self-expression, 3) Interpersonal, 4) Decision-making, & 5) Stress Management.
Once you understand your emotional intelligence levels, a simple cue for reminding you to continue growing your competencies can be found in ATM—Awareness-Trigger-Manage.
To leverage one’s assessment results to the fullest extent, it should be debriefed with a certified coach. It is important to note--knowing one’s overall score does not tell the whole story. To really leverage the wisdom of the assessment, learning to balance one’s low and high areas of emotional and social intelligences is where the magic lies.
GREAT COACHES open-up their clients’ peripheral vision by reaching their neo-cortex, the executive center of the brain. When a person is in a calm and safe space, they become more inviting of new ideas and are more open and supportive. The impacts of emotionally intelligent coaches for clients is growth, an increased ability to take risks, more likely to interact with others in a similar way and more connected.
The NOT-SO-GREAT COACHES trigger the clients’ ‘reptilian’ part of the brain, more formally known as the Limbic System. When the Limbic System is charged up, people go on the defense and search for threats – their perspective and focus begin to narrow, they become unable to think of other possibilities and confirm the story in their mind that they are right.
“Emotions aren’t always immediately subject to reason, but they are always immediately subject to action.”
When our presenters, Griebel and Stubblefield, were asked what drew them to the EQi-2.0 assessment tool, Griebel said, it was the first tool backed by research and validated, both extremely important to her as a practitioner, trainer and coach. For Stubblefield, the attraction was based on her work with clients. Her experiences confirmed for her that many of the challenges in the workplace or in relationships were grounded in a person’s awareness of and ability to manage their emotional and social selves.
The session ended with attendees reviewing a case study to demonstrate how the EQi-2.0 tool can be utilized in one’s coaching practice. In-line with a typical coaching session, attendees could choose to commit to their own self-work by identifying one to two areas of their emotional intelligences they were willing to develop.
ICF Minnesota exists to cultivate a community of coaches and advance the coaching profession through professional development, networking and adherence to ICF professional and ethical standards. The next event, 10 Ways to Leverage your LinkedIn Profile to Generate Revenue, is a webinar which will be held on Thursday, June 20th, Register, learn more, or become a member at, www.icfminnesota.org.
10 WAYS TO LEVERAGE YOUR LINKEDIN PROFILE TO GENERATE REVENUE
SPEAKER: Judy Zimmer, Coachology
DATE: June 20, 2019
TIME: 12:00 p.m. to 1:30 p.m.
CEU’s: 1.5 Resource Competency
LOCATION: Register For This Event
Over 600 million people have profiles on LinkedIn and there are 2.4 million coaches in the US on their platform. Wouldn’t you like to be one that stands out from the crowd?
During this LIVE session, you will have the opportunity to work on your LinkedIn profile as we move through the webinar. From the top of your profile banner to the groups you follow, you will learn how to write your profile to attract clients, add credibility, obtain recommendations with ease, showcase your expertise and build a following.
Learn the tricks, tips and techniques for maximizing this amazing tool. LinkedIn is the THE social network site for business professionals. Before a client picks up the phone to call you, they will more than likely be looking at your LinkedIn profile. Whether you are a part-time coach on the side or a full-time coach, you can leverage LinkedIn to drive business.
Not only will you learn updates and changes to LinkedIn, how the platform supports you in growing your business, but Judy will showcase profiles of those on the webinar.
Tuesday, July 23, 2019, 6:30 PM until 8:30 PM
Como Park Pavilion
160 Lexington Parkway N
St. Paul, MN
Register For This Event
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Morning routine experiment- who’s with me?
1st of a 2 part series on developing routines, but first an experiment.
Ready to get started?
1st step ~ Very important ~ I invite you to dedicate 3 mornings for this experiment. Go through your morning and at 1:00 p.m. take a quick inventory; this inventory is done in retrospect.
● Make note of what time you wake up each morning? Did you press snooze? How many times?
● List other tasks you perform after getting up each morning?
● What did you plan to accomplish, what did you actually accomplish?
● Did anything get in the way of you accomplishing what you set out to get done? If yes, what got in the way?
● How did it you feel as each morning progressed?
● After completing this part of the experiment, you will have a baseline of your results.
2nd Step: I invite you to spend the next 3 mornings with a structured morning routine and journal how each morning goes. For this experiment, I will provide you with a structure see below.
1. Wake up at the same time each of the three mornings. Once the alarm goes off sit up without pressing snooze. What do you notice?
2. Start your day off by recognizing what you are grateful for and write it in our journal. A grateful heart creates a positive vibe that can last all day. What do you notice?
3. Make your bed. You probably thought you could get away with not making your bed. Studies actually show it leads to a more productive morning. Mom was right! What do you notice?
4. Get moving first thing in the morning to immediately boost your energy. If this is your exercise time get to it, if not do some light stretching or yoga, it helps your circulation and heart rate to get going. What do you notice?
5. Before too long down a glass of water as soon as you can after getting up! Continue to drink throughout the morning. What do you notice?
6. Even if you wake up stressed about the day ahead, take a few minutes to meditate/breathe/say your manta each of these can help you relax and step into your day more productively. What do you notice?
I am interested in hearing from each experimenter, please share with me directly by sending an email to firstname.lastname@example.org.
In the 2nd part of this series I will provide additional details as to why a routine is so important to your overall well-being. I will also share information incorporating a nightly routine for easing the morning routine.
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Your 2019 board:
Trish Perry: President, Deb Johnson: President Elect, Shari Fruechte: Past President, Cheryl Hegland: Treasurer, Ann Houser: Secretary, Lance Hazzard: Outreach Chair, Judy Zimmer: Outreach Co-Chair, Mary Kay Delvo: Professional Development Chair, Sara Krisher: Professional Development Co-Chair, Polly Edwards: Membership Chair, Jodi Dehli: Membership Co-Chair, Danielle Allen: Web Support Chair, Ellen Carlson: Web Support Co-Chair, Michon Willman: Communications Chair, Theresa Nutt: Communications Co-Chair, Jennifer Byrnes: Sponsorship Co-Chair : Shawn Moore, Professional Development Co- Chair
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ICF Converge 2019
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